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A highly intelligent young woman had developed patterns of obsessive thoughts which were causing her a great deal of distress. She grew to doubt her own sense of reality. Whenever she drove her car or used a computer she worried that she might be giving messages to others to harm children. Although she knew that these actions were not really happening, she simply could not stop constantly worrying about the possibility that they were, and eventually had to give up her job. She had seven sessions over a period of three months then sent the following in an email:

Each session with Alec made me feel better and gave me something constructive to focus on in between. I finally understood what was happening to me. Learning how the brain works and focusing on getting the balances right in my life helped me to break out of self-destructive thought patterns that had been ruling and ruining my life. The human givens approach helped me to help myself.

What people say - Testimonials

This message was received as a handwritten note from a woman who attended the Wiltshire Human Givens Centre for just two sessions.

I would recommend this help to all. It has given me more freedom in life and I am now in control and don't have to have bad feelings about anything any more. Life is better than it has ever been. It is also helping my family as I am calmer with them. Thank you. Bless you.

PS. You may use this in any way you like

This man in his 30's wanted to be "much more chilled about life". He had tried other counselling services but felt ill at ease with long silences and lack of practical advice. Following an illness, he had developed a tendency to worry obsessively about becoming ill again. Sometimes he felt lonely and occasionally suffered from angry outbursts, especially on occasions after drinking alcohol. He learned a lot about the causes and effects of anger and during therapy significantly reduced the amount he would drink - even though this was not initially his stated aim. He sent the following in a handwritten letter:

Just a token of my appreciation for getting me through what has been a very 'dark time', and for pointing out that things aren't always as bad as they appear to be. I in myself have managed to get closer to the end of the tunnel and have started to think rationally again, so there are some shades of blue sky appearing on the horizon, but I still have a way to go yet. (... deleted for reasons of confidentiality... Ed) Thank you for all the good that you have done for me and for believing in me. Cheers.

This testimonial was delivered as a signed, hand written letter. The course of treatment was longer than usual - a total of nine sessions over ten weeks, but throughout the course of treatment the woman valued the help she was receiving and wanted to continue until she had reached her goals. At the end of the treatment she reported benefits from the therapy in the following areas: 1) personal insight/understanding, 2) expression of feelings/problems, 3) exploration of feelings/problems, 4) coping strategies/techniques, 5) access to practical help, 6) control/planning/decision making, 7) subjective well-being, 8) symptoms, 9) day to day functioning and 10) personal relationships. Here is what she wrote:

After my first conversation with Alec, I instinctively knew that his approach would help me. By helping me to understand my behaviour and giving me the answers and guidance that I needed, Alec has helped clear my mind and move forward. Most importantly (for me) Alec has given me the confidence to realise that I have great qualities and I'm actually quite proud of what I have achieved.

If anyone I know needs help in the future I will recommend the Human Givens Centre to help change their lives too.

It would be my pleasure to give you a testimonial for your web site, I'm no Ernest Hemingway, but here goes:

"I was give a pamphlet for 'alendi' by Occupational Health at work…..

Alec was like a breath of fresh air, didn't want to know how I felt about "my father", "my past", "my first pet" or "first girlfriend", I was instantly at ease, I have goose bumps now as I think about it. Alec's technique was like nothing I had experienced in the previous 6 or 7 months since taking enough pills to cure all the hangovers in a small town. I was shown how to relax, how to recover and repair, deal with the pain when I wanted to instead of being crushed under the weight of it.

5 months on I am back at work and applying for a Managerial position, relaxed, confident and happy, but more importantly able to deal with all the rubbish that life dumps on you, without letting it build up until it is too big to even consider, let alone, put right. 5 sessions with Alec turned my life around, he saved my life and gave it back to me, only better.

Part of the technique rids me of my daily burdens and puts me to sleep at night, (or when ever I feel like a quick nap!) please don't despair, the pit is surprisingly shallow, confusion doesn't reign, try alendi, if you are like I was 12 months ago you have nothing to loose and everything to gain."

Alec, I can't really do you justice in 50 words, sorry. Please feel free to use all, part or none of the above in anyway you deem fit, you can put my first name on it and county and I would be happy to speak to anyone on the phone or by mail if it means they may come to you for help.

Thank you once again and I'll never forget what you have done for me.

Tim, Oxfordshire

Course title: Dealing with stress in the workplace.
"All managers and supervisors should do the course"

Course title: Improving Emotional and Mental Health:
"I think this should be part of mandatory training"

Course title: Improving Emotional and Mental Health:
"Very good, very practical and down to earth"

This is taken from an email from the woman in the spider phobia video - four years after the treatment. The fear of spiders she had since the age of 14/15 years was removed permanently in a single Human Givens session held in 2003.

"Most importantly I think to point out is that IT WORKS, I had been afraid of spiders (photos, drawings, cartoons not to mention the real thing) for as long as I could remember, it was becoming debilitating. I had found my self unable to go into my own home because I had seen a spider the night before which no one could find and dispose of and worst of all I was passing the fear on to my children, so when I was offered Human Givens therapy I was skeptical, but willing to try anything that could help, (I had already tried psychotherapy without success). I met with Alec with as open mind as possible. The success was remarkable . . . . .

At the beginning of the session there was no way I would even sit in the same room as a spider, even if it was in a jar AT THE OTHER END OF THE ROOM !!!! However by the end of the session I was holding a jar in my hand watching the spider in the jar. It was probably the most liberating thing I had experienced. I now go into the insect house at the Cotswold Wildlife Park. I can actually pick up a spider and put it out. Don't get me wrong I don't like spiders but I no longer have to cry and run when I see a tiny house spider - which is fantastic !!!!!

Try it !!!"

This client had been disturbed by an unusual experience two years previously and which had been present in his thoughts every single day since. A single session removed the automatic emotional impact from the experience, helped to give the client a clearer picture of the events and since the session he reports feeling happier and generally more positive.

I met Alec Stansfield .... (deleted for reasons of confidentiality - Ed). Through general conversation he expressed an interest in a unique and troubling experience that had been with me since 2005. He suggested some professional guidance may be of help to me.

I spent an hour and a half with Alec "in the chair". At all times I felt completely confident and relaxed about opening up and dealing with the subject.

He is a complete professional and the method of discussion used, lead to a very positive result in terms of understanding and boxing the subject for the future.

I would highly recommend Alec's passive, verbal methods and techniques. Align this with his sincere and genuine character, I had no concerns about trusting his help and advice.

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